Ummmm, confused much?
Posted by cjrambling on October 25, 2011
So, it’s only been a year since I last visited bloggy world. Nothing like consistancy, huh? I think this has become the place I say/ask the things I can’t in real life, so maybe its a good thing I haven’t been here. Means I’m getting more “real”, yes? hahaha Anyhoo, on to today’s dilemma…
My first ex husband sent me a Facebook message last week… Haven’t seen or heard from him in over 10 years and I get this “whats going on girl. hope all is well. give me a call if you want” and his phone number. Now people, this is the guy I hurt, the guy who deserved better, you know, the guy I owe major apology to… W…T….F…..???? No way in Hades can I have much of a discussion with my current friends on this topic cause they don’t know him, didn’t know me back then and honestly would probably want to try to set me up with him cause they seem to think being single is a bad thing….
But I digress…after much freaking out and thought and a couple of “feeler” messages to make sure it really was him and all, I called him. It wasn’t much more than a catch up on families cause he was in the car with his kids at the time and he said he’d call me back “later”. Haven’t heard back from him in a couple of days so I assume I won’t be hearing from him, which kinda leaves me more confused than i was to begin with and in a bit of a quandry.
Minor background. He remarried, has been married for 10 years or so, has 3 kids and is in the middle of a divorce. During our messaging, I asked him what made him get in touch after all these years (thinking maybe the divorce was just bringing up old ghosts). He says no. Says he ran into an old mutual friend and they were talking about the old days and he thought he’d look me up. Then says “sorry, i’ll leave you alone for another 20 years hahahaha” It was after this message that I decided to call him and see what was up. As I said he was in the car with his kiddos so it was pretty short and generic.
Now, I don’t get men so I have no idea whether guys would just do this “cause” or if there’s some ulterior motive. Point is, he didn’t ask to “friend” me or anything, just sends me a message saying call if I want.
So, A) why get in touch after all these years? and B) as I said, I owe this guy major apology. I didn’t feel comfortable getting into it while he’s driving and talking to his kids so we never got to that point. If he doesn’t get back in touch do I let sleeping hurts lie or do I reach out again with the apology?
cjrambling said
So, to update. I did reach out with the apology. Kept it short and sweet, sorry for everything that happened back then. I was a be-otch and you deserved better. He responded saying he was sorry too that he wasn’t the easiest person to get along with and we were too young for that kind of commitment. Told me to keep in touch and that while the apology wasn’t needed, it was accepted. So, I’d say we cleared a little air and parted on good terms.