Seriously need to vent…Feel free to ignore…

So, the dumbass, fuckhead ex managed to get some poor schmuck of a woman to lay out $1000 and a reference with her boss to get him a job and an apartment.  He promptly told his mom (who he’s been living with for the last 3 years) to take a hike and alienated what was left of his family.  Then, low and behold, the new employer found out about some…we’ll call it less than stellar stewardship…at another employer and said “nope, can’t take the chance”  He threw a temper tantrum involving a knife of some sort on his front lawn and got kicked out of his apartment and Mama ain’t lettin’ him move back in.  (REALLY???  BUT WHY???  I mean he’s such a LOVING son…)  Long story short he let me know he wouldn’t be able “see the kids on his weekends cause he’s homeless.”  So, I took him at his word and he hasn’t seen the kids in a month.  He didn’t contact them on his weekends, his birthday or fathers day.  When I asked my daughter if she wanted to call him on fathers day, she decided that would be pointless cause obviously his phone wasn’t working or he’d have texted or called her sometime in the last month.  (I didn’t have the heart to tell her his phone was working just fine, cause he’d texted ME that night, but not his KIDS.  – Hello, FATHER’s day, not EX’s day?!?!?)  Anyhoo, now he’s all “boo hoo, I don’t know what my kids are doing and its all everybody else’s fault cause CJ won’t Friend me on facebook so I can see what they’re all doing”  (apparently he gets online at the library now)…

My personal opinion is…he’s trying to make us feel sorry for him.  If he truly gave a damn about his kids, he’d have stayed in touch when he had a phone and made some sort of attempt to see them (meet at the park, etc.) since then.  Oh, not to mention…temper tantrums involving knifes are NOT a good way to earn my trust when it comes to spending time with his kids…Just sayin’….

Sooooo, Bitchy much?????

Yeah, moving on.  Now he’s trying to get his sister to convince me to Friend him on Facebook.  I’m half tempted to write him the following in response to his email to his sister:

“You told me to ask the kids if they wanted anything to “remember you by” Yeah, let me just mention to the kids that their dad isn’t planning to see them anymore, but, hey, if you want his TV, let me know! Gag me. I asked Big Girl on Father’s day if she wanted to call you and her answer was “No, if his phone was working, he’d have gotten in touch with me. I haven’t heard from him since May.” I didn’t have the heart to tell her your phone was working just fine at that time. You texted me later that night, but didn’t bother to contact your kids. I’ve gotten a dozen or more texts from you since the last time you texted Big Girl and the only time you mentioned contacting her was when you were threatening to ask her why I wouldn’t talk to you. You haven’t asked how or what they’re doing, if you could see them sometime, etc. You are the parent, they are the kids, you are the responsible party and yet, somehow, its always someone elses fault that you don’t know anything about your kids.”

However, I’m afraid that if I say it, he’ll start calling them and just upset them all over again. My personal opinion is that he’s just using them to get at the rest of us. If he really cared about THEM, he’d have found a way to stay in touch. Especially back when his phone was working. I know its hard on the kids, but I’d rather him just disappear now, then to go back and forth – ignoring them when he’s got something better to do and then contacting them when he needs something from us… A clean break seems better to me than a tug of war with their emotions.

Know what I mean? What do you think?

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